Everyone has a past of some kind - an ex-wife, ex-girlfriend or girl FRIENDS that they have had some kind of relationship with. If you are human, then more than likely you have felt some kind of jealousy over these relationships that your current man has. There are all kinds of instances when we can feel jealousy. Perhaps you are at the bar and you see your boyfriend talking to another woman.

Or maybe your date is openly staring at a beautiful girl across the room. Maybe he even cheated on you and you found out. No matter how it happens, jealousy is not fun. Whether your jealousy is reasonable or not, it makes you FEEL all kinds of negative emotions, like hurt, anger, resentment - even reproach and disgust. There are basically 2 kinds of jealousy.

Jealousy that is reasonable and founded is an actual event is one kind. The other kind of jealousy is groundless - this is like if you get upset that he ran into his ex-wife at the grocery store or he casually mentions something that happened with an old flame years ago. The kind of jealousy that is rational, though, would be like you feeling jealous because he cheated on you.

This is totally rational - and - is a sign that there is something amiss in your relationship, and you AND HE need to work on that thing right away. If he is not willing to work on this with you, then he is NOT the right man for you, and you need to pull your stakes and leave. Essentially what those feelings mean is that you are ANGRY that he is not treating you right. His treatment of you and your own self integrity are at war with each other.

And if he is treating you in a way that makes your own integrity have to compete with something else - then he is NOT good enough for you. The imaginary situation or past occurrence is what leads to the second type of jealousy. Let's say you are jealous because your man ran into his old girlfriend at the mall the other day. Everyone has a past. Everyone had relationships with someone other than you at some point in their life.

That is no cause for a negative reaction on your part, and will only hurt your relationship and show him that he cannot trust YOU when he tells you things. If you become jealous over small things like this - then what your emotions are telling you is that you are afraid and insecure. This is not in any way HIS fault. This is something YOU need to work on with yourself. Take some time and really reach inside yourself and figure out what is causing the fear you have.

Sometimes, women even get jealous about things that have not even occurred. Say for instance you see your man talking to a co-worker at a party and they are laughing and having a good time. This is another emotional response to fear and insecurity. You need to look at what HE is doing and tell yourself, "It IS what it IS.

Nothing." Sometimes jealousy is founded, other times it is not. Your relationship with your boyfriend or husband will certainly improve if you are able to discover the ROOT FEAR of your jealousy, and overcome that fear, making YOU a healthier, happier woman.

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